If you really want to rebuild your intimacy with your spouse, girlfriend or boyfriend, you must have to understand the importance of sex toys in your relationship. Below is given three very important ways, which you can use to introduce them in your sexual relationship:

Prepping up the Work Area

You must star slowly. Remember, making hurry can ruin your efforts. When you are trying to bridge a gap between relationships, you must build your base first with the help of prepping up your work area. It is a little challenging to introduce some completely new, outside element into your relationship. The easiest and perhaps the best tool to make your initial efforts easier is to use some kind of lotions and oils.

All you are doing here is to simplify the process of introducing the sex toys with the help of a third element, which is something very simple to start with. Once you have succeeded in getting used to erotic lotions and oils, you are very much on your way to open the door for the introduction of other intimacy tools. This would make it a lot easier for your partner to get used to all such stuff and both of you won’t feel like alien to these things.

Introducing the First One

It’s very important to set a perfect stage for the introduction of your very first sex toy, which you have already done by following the step described above. Now, the next important thing is to wisely choose your first toy, so that you won’t end up scaring or limiting the interest of your partner with such physically intimate tools. So, go with gentle, simple and easier to use toys first.

It is strictly a no-no to use some elaborate contraptions as your foundation toy. This could easily scare off or drive away your partner. The foundation should be something that is very basic in nature and which can be used to further build upon in future. Some of the examples for simple yet very effective and pleasing foundations are the different kinds of ticklers.

Avoid Being Addicted

You should take care of one important thing while using the sexually intimate tools and that is to avoid being too dependent on them for your excitement. In some cases, people get addicted to these tools to such an extent that they don’t get intimate without relying on one or other kind of sex toys. One must and always use them for simply enhancing their intimacy and not to make them the centerpiece of their relationship. There must be some times when you have your sexual intercourse sans such tools.

HIJAAB FOR WOMEN

Question:

Why does Islam degrade women by keeping them behind the veil?

Answer:

The status of women in Islam is often the target of attacks in the secular media. The ‘hijaab’ or the Islamic dress is cited by many as an example of the ‘subjugation’ of women under Islamic law. Before we analyze the reasoning behind the religiously mandated ‘hijaab’, let us first study the status of women in societies before the advent of Islam

1.   In the past women were degraded and used as objects of lust

The following examples from history amply illustrate the fact that the status of women in earlier civilizations was very low to the extent that they were denied basic human dignity:

Babylonian Civilization:
The women were degraded and were denied all rights under the Babylonian law. If a man murdered a woman, instead of him being punished, his wife was put to death.
Greek Civilization:
Greek Civilization is considered the most glorious of all ancient civilizations. Under this very ‘glorious’ system, women were deprived of all rights and were looked down upon. In Greek mythology, an ‘imaginary woman’ called ‘Pandora’ is the root cause of misfortune of human beings. The Greeks considered women to be subhuman and inferior to men. Though chastity of women was precious, and women were held in high esteem, the Greeks were later overwhelmed by ego and sexual perversions. Prostitution became a regular practice amongst all classes of Greek society.
Roman Civilization:
When Roman Civilization was at the zenith of its ‘glory’, a man even had the right to take the life of his wife. Prostitution and nudity were common amongst the Romans.
Egyptian Civilization:
The Egyptian considered women evil and as a sign of a devil.
Pre-Islamic Arabia:
Before Islam spread in Arabia, the Arabs looked down upon women and very often when a female child was born, she was buried alive.

2.   Islam uplifted women and gave them equality and expects them to maintain their status.

Islam uplifted the status of women and granted them their just rights 1400 years ago. Islam expects women to maintain their status.

Hijaab for men

People usually only discuss ‘hijaab’ in the context of women. However, in the Glorious Qur’an, Allah (swt) first mentions ‘hijaab’ for men before ‘hijaab’ for the women. The Qur’an mentions in Surah Noor:

“Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: and Allah is well acquainted with all that they do.”
[Al-Qur'an 24:30]

The moment a man looks at a woman and if any brazen or unashamed thought comes to his mind, he should lower his gaze.

Hijaab for women.

The next verse of Surah Noor, says:

” And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands’ fathers, their sons…”
[Al-Qur'an 24:31]

3.   Six criteria for Hijaab.

According to Qur’an and Sunnah there are basically six criteria for observing hijaab:

Extent:

The first criterion is the extent of the body that should be covered. This is different for men and women. The extent of covering obligatory on the male is to cover the body at least from the navel to the knees. For women, the extent of covering obligatory is to cover the complete body except the face and the hands upto the wrist. If they wish to, they can cover even these parts of the body. Some scholars of Islam insist that the face and the hands are part of the obligatory extent of ‘hijaab’.

All the remaining five criteria are the same for men and women.

The clothes worn should be loose and should not reveal the figure.
The clothes worn should not be transparent such that one can see through them.
The clothes worn should not be so glamorous as to attract the opposite sex.
The clothes worn should not resemble that of the opposite sex.
The clothes worn should not resemble that of the unbelievers i.e. they should not wear clothes that are specifically identities or symbols of the unbelievers’ religions.

4.   Hijaab includes conduct and behaviour among other things

Complete ‘hijaab’, besides the six criteria of clothing, also includes the moral conduct, behaviour, attitude and intention of the individual. A person only fulfilling the criteria of ‘hijaab’ of the clothes is observing ‘hijaab’ in a limited sense. ‘Hijaab’ of the clothes should be accompanied by ‘hijaab’ of the eyes, ‘hijaab’ of the heart, ‘hijaab’ of thought and ‘hijaab’ of intention. It also includes the way a person walks, the way a person talks, the way he behaves, etc.

5.   Hijaab prevents molestation

The reason why Hijaab is prescribed for women is mentioned in the Qur’an in the following verses of Surah Al-Ahzab:

“O Prophet! Tell thy wives and daughters, and the believing women that they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when abroad); that is most convenient, that they should be known (as such) and not molested. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.”
[Al-Qur'an 33:59]

The Qur’an says that Hijaab has been prescribed for the women so that they are recognized as modest women and this will also prevent them from being molested.

6.   Example of twin sisters

Suppose two sisters who are twins, and who are equally beautiful, walk down the street. One of them is attired in the Islamic hijaab i.e. the complete body is covered, except for the face and the hands up to the wrists. The other sister is wearing western clothes, a mini skirt or shorts. Just around the corner there is a hooligan or ruffian who is waiting for a catch, to tease a girl. Whom will he tease? The girl wearing the Islamic Hijaab or the girl wearing the skirt or the mini? Naturally he will tease the girl wearing the skirt or the mini. Such dresses are an indirect invitation to the opposite sex for teasing and molestation. The Qur’an rightly says that hijaab prevents women from being molested.

7.   Capital punishment for the rapists

Under the Islamic shariah, a man convicted of having raped a woman, is given capital punishment. Many are astonished at this ‘harsh’ sentence. Some even say that Islam is a ruthless, barbaric religion! I have asked a simple question to hundreds of non-Muslim men. Suppose, God forbid, someone rapes your wife, your mother or your sister. You are made the judge and the rapist is brought in front of you. What punishment would you give him? All of them said they would put him to death. Some went to the extent of saying they would torture him to death. To them I ask, if someone rapes your wife or your mother you want to put him to death. But if the same crime is committed on somebody else’s wife or daughter you say capital punishment is barbaric. Why should there be double standards?

8.   Western society falsely claims to have uplifted women

Western talk of women’s liberalization is nothing but a disguised form of exploitation of her body, degradation of her soul, and deprivation of her honour. Western society claims to have ‘uplifted’ women. On the contrary it has actually degraded them to the status of concubines, mistresses and society butterflies who are mere tools in the hands of pleasure seekers and sex marketeers, hidden behind the colourful screen of ‘art’ and ‘culture’.

9.   USA has one of the highest rates of rape

United States of America is supposed to be one of the most advanced countries of the world. It also has one of the highest rates of rape in any country in the world. According to a FBI report, in the year 1990, every day on an average 1756 cases of rape were committed in U.S.A alone. Later another report said that on an average everyday 1900 cases of rapes are committed in USA. The year was not mentioned. May be it was 1992 or 1993. May be the Americans got ‘bolder’ in the following years.

Consider a scenario where the Islamic hijaab is followed in America. Whenever a man looks at a woman and any brazen or unashamed thought comes to his mind, he lowers his gaze. Every woman wears the Islamic hijaab, that is the complete body is covered except the face and the hands upto the wrist. After this if any man commits rape he is given capital punishment. I ask you, in such a scenario, will the rate of rape in America increase, will it remain the same, or will it decrease?

10.   Implementation of Islamic Shariah will reduce the rate of rapes

Naturally as soon as Islamic Shariah is implemented positive results will be inevitable. If Islamic Shariah is implemented in any part of the world, whether it is America or Europe, society will breathe easier. Hijaab does not degrade a woman but uplifts a woman and protects her modesty and chastity.

Source: Peace TV & Speech of Dr Zakir Naik

Hard plastic is a non-porous material and it does not include health-damaging chemical components, such as phthalates (usually found in adult toys that use combinations of silicone and rubber). In addition, if you have any sort of sensitivity to chemical substances or to latex, for instance, you will be completely safe with hard plastic sex toys, as the material is hypoallergenic.

You are likely to derive the same amount of pleasure from a dildo made of hard plastic (particularly if you like it truly rough), but also from a vibrator made of the same material. Since the material is non-porous, an adult toy made of it will be very easy to clean. Essentially, you can use – the same as in the case of silicone adult toys – water and soap or bleach or alcohol-based cleaning products. You will only have to pay attention to rinsing the toys meticulously after you have put bleach on them, for example.

Hard plastic is durable, but it can break rather easily – therefore, when you store your hard plastic sex toys, make sure that there is no possibility of them falling from their storage area. In addition, make sure you do not let them drop suddenly while you are using them. Fissures in hard plastic toys could be causing pain on your body, as they can make the toy sharp and painful to use.

You can ease penetration with hard plastic sex toys if you add lubricants. The good news is that all sorts of lubricants are good to use with hard plastics – whether they are water based or silicone-based, they will work the wet miracles that you are expecting them to work. Penetration will feel as powerful as you want it to feel, with the right amount of lubricant applied on the toy.

To conform to heath safety rules, it is preferable to put a condom on hard plastic adult toys while you are using them, even if you are using them alone or together with a partner. We reinforce this piece of advice particularly if you are using a vibrator or a dildo, both for anal and for vaginal penetration.

A condom on the toy will prevent the transmission of potentially unsafe and, therefore, harmful microorganisms. Indeed, you may wash a hard plastic adult toy, but this does not mean you have also completely disinfected it. The issue grows even more complicated because you cannot boil hard plastic, as it is damaged at the boiling temperature of water. However, you can prevent any disease by taking care of it during the sex act.